BE MINE

LOVE?

Lately I've been really confused, confused about one thing in particular, love. I see some of the women around me "fall" in and out of "love". I thought I had found love a couple years ago too, I was wrong. I had a conversation the other day with some of these women who said that love could make you do some unimaginable things. They said that no matter how much a person hurts you physically, mentally, and emotionally, you will still do anything for them. Call me the ICE PRINCESS but I don't know about that. The girls said that I couldn't understand where they where coming from because I had never been in love like this. Correct me if I'm wrong but I didn't think that LOVE was supposed to hurt you in these ways. Love doesn't do that. I did some research on the subject to assist me in my journey of finding a solid definition of love. I got this definition from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia :

Love represents a range of human emotions and experiences related to the senses of affection and sexual attraction.[1] The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. This diversity of meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states. As an abstract concept love usually refers to a strong, ineffable feeling towards another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love).

Whew! Now that was an earful! Basically this says that love is complicated and hard to put into words. Nevertheless I still don't see anything in here about being subject to abuse and degradation. Nothing in this defintion even suggests that. My parents have been married for 23 years and they would do anything for one another but one thing I do know is that if either of them felt like they were being abused, they would not tolerate it. I know it seems like I'm all over the place with this post but that's because I'm so confused.

Another definition of Love that I found was this: Love is the continual act of unconditionally putting the needs of others before your own (http://www.wikihow.com/Love).

I do understand this defintion but it takes me back to the conversation I had with these girls. When someone is abusive and hurtful and they say "but I love you", does that make it okay? Will love do those things?Will love treat you like that? I think it is time for some of these girls, who will remain nameless to wake up! I do understand that pretty much every girl will have that person in their life who they are weak for and as I like to say, "dumb for" but I think love should be an empowering thing. It shouldn't be something that makes you weak or dumb. If this is the case then maybe you should re-evaluate yourself.

I listen to stories about girls going crazy and doing so many crazy things when they are in a relationship because they "love" their partner so much, which to me sounds like you love that other person more than you love yourself. I'm not an expert on this subject and I am open to anyone who has any insight on the topic to help me understand the notion of love and what it entails. Maybe the girls were right, I may not understand because I haven't been down that road yet but from the looks of things that may not be a trip I wanna take.

Idk...Tell me what yout think

~LANA~